Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Thoughts 27 - Kindness is free

Warning: post contains profanity.  If you don't like curse words, don't read the post.  Just remember to be kind.

So...this happened yesterday...

I'm in the CBD (downtown) returning a library book. There was a group with two people in wheelchairs, two others with obvious mental disabilities, and two helpers. We were standing at a crosswalk waiting for the light to change.  There was also a man dressed in a business suit talking on his mobile phone waiting.  One of the guys from the first group reached out to the man dressed in a suit. He shook him off while continuing to talk on his phone. The helper tried to control and re-direct the guy in her group. He reached out to the man again, tugging on his jacket, and made a loud noise. The businessman shook him off and called him a "crazy" C word (he said the word, but I refuse to type that one). Shocked, I said "that was completely uncalled for". The suited man called me a "fat bitch". I replied "I'd rather be a fat bitch than a fucking asshole".  The light changed, and he walked away.  I walked away.  The group stayed put.

I was so angry and so upset, I was shaking. All this happened in probably less than 30 seconds. 30 completely unnecessary seconds. I hope that suited guy falls in front of a bus.  No, I don't, but...

I wasn't angry or upset by what he said to me (although that was completely uncalled for too.)  I was shocked, dismayed, disgusted, and infuriated that his response to the young man that clearly faced some mental and physical challenges was to call him a "crazy" C-bomb.  The C word.  The nastiest word to call someone that the English language has to offer.

What is wrong with people?  What goes on in that guy's head or in that guy's life to make him such a nasty person?   He is someone's son.  He is someone's co-worker.  He is possibly someone's friend and/or lover.  Even worse, he is possibly someone's father.  How does he treat those close in his life?  What does he teach his children?

A friend shared this picture with me after she learned of this experience of mine.  Perfect.
 This is one of those experiences that I will remember for the rest of my life.  I am not writing this for praise.  I am writing this to encourage others to have empathy and compassion.

People, do something kind today. Combat this incident of ugliness by spreading kindness.


  1. I AM APPALLED. SERIOUSLY. Where do these people get off thinking this is okay? I always hope for so much out of people, but sometimes they surprise me. It's in moments like this I have to remember that there are good people in the world (like you for calling him out) and that hopefully karma gets them.

  2. Ugh. So many nasty people in the world :-(

  3. Sadly there are just some terribly nasty people in this world, I try to remind myself that having that kind of ugliness inside must be much worse for them than it is for us. As you said you only experienced 30 seconds - he has to deal with himself 24/7!

  4. There are always miserable assholes to contend with - there always have been and always will be. That's why it's important to be outwardly kind when we can - to balance it out!

  5. This is disgusting. I cannot comprehend treating anyone that way. I actually pity the businessman because clearly, something is lacking in his life where he needs to behave in that manner. I believe in karma so I am confident it'll come back around on him.

  6. That is HORRIBLE! What is wrong with that guy? I hope someone insults his stupid face.

  7. Oh my goodness, I cannot believe that idiot! Some people are just unbelievable. I wonder if he always acts like that. I mean, insulting two people who never hurt him in just one minute...must be a record. Your reaction was very good! Thumbs up! I hope he will lose all his money and all his stupid suits get destroyed!

  8. There is something inherently wrong with the world and people today. I'm glad you said that to that bastard. Completely unnecessary and uncalled for to react like that. Have some fucking compassion and a heart. I would've lost my shit on him.

    I just don't understand how and why people can be so mean and hurtful to others.

  9. i am so sorry you had to deal with this. i am ashamed that i am somehow connected to that idiot by way of nationality, lol. i get that he's busy and you don't want people touching you - but that is absolutely uncalled for and simply disgusting.


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