I've been struggling since reading and hearing this. No, this is not the first story of sexual misconduct I've read about in the last 20+ years. But, every single time, I read a story like this, I can't help but think of the victim.
I have my own story, and you can read about it My Own "Dark Places".
I admit that I am angry. IF the behaviour and actions are indeed true, can you imagine what that 16 year old girl is feeling now? Accompanied with the trauma, shame, embarrassment, and confusion she was most likely already experiencing, now she is unjustly carrying feelings of guilt as well. That angers me. IF the accusations are true, he took the coward's way out. He added another heap of negativity to that 16 year old added with the trauma he has caused his wife and children.
You know this social media culture that we live in with a whole lot of keyboard judges and juries? You know the ones. The ones that sit behind a monitor and pass judgement without facts. I've already read comments from these people that make my stomach turn. (Some of those comments are on the news article link I posted.) Comments that blame the accuser for the man's death. Comments that question and claim that these are false allegations. Comments, on the contrary, that claim knowledge of other victims. None of these comments are needed on social media platforms during a tragic time like this. I shake my head and my skin crawls. Yes, one comment even made me cry because I can't help my own feelings to creep back in.
Sadly, I believe that my hopes listed above are stretched and unrealistic. But, I don't want a life without hope.